Calimero syndrome

You wake up on drill strings – neighbors are repairing their apartment. It’s been a few weeks. It was about seven in the morning. Another bad day. Roll the doll, broke the bathroom sink faucet today, too. Things are not going the way they used to. It’s starting to leak, but you can’t call a plumber before talking to the administrator to turn off the water in the shaft. It’s just that the administrator can not be found and there is no one in the administration. In addition, you do not even know a good plumber, the last one you called works according to the principle “Don’t break it because I trained you.” Since I “fix” your bathroom, the hot water comes with pressure to say it’s doing you a favour. Well, the word “warm” because it is akin to a hangover. That’s why I caught a cold and was afraid to have COVID and got the tests done quickly. And these tests, once very expensive, when they reach your nose, to look for the virus, and even assure you that you have been unlucky in life, that you feel it to the core. Not to mention it’s not very safe either – you have to repeat it and every training costs money. It’s like a money factory. You can’t even be happy that you didn’t get COVID, that you feel like you gave that money away for handouts. etc, etc.

In 2017, Saverio Tomasella, a clinical psychopathologist and founder of CERP (Centre d’Études et de Recherches en Psychanalyse), identified the so-called Calimero syndrome – a reference to those never-dissatisfied people, for whom life seems to be the only pleasure in life. To them she has to complain all the time about anything and everyone.

Tommasella named this syndrome after the main character of the popular Italian animated series from the 1960s, and was such a hit with audiences that it was later taken over, through the franchise, in Japan as Karimero. In the series, Calimero was a fluffy chicken, who always complained about how unfair he was, both about his peers and his life in general.

He was a sympathetic character, because, not as in real life, those who doubt always have something to gain—whether we try to help them or we tolerate their faults by virtue of our inability to help them. You can blame someone for making trouble, even if they exaggerate it.

In fact, Tomasella identifies three categories of people with this syndrome: some even have a victim mentality (always feeling inferior and unfair) and always need the sympathy of others. Others just beg for attention – when you have nothing to stand out with, you start to sigh. Others use wailing as a justification for inaction and laziness. Lamentations, used either as a crutch or as a tool, are always a means of manipulation. Others, but you too.

On the other hand, psychologists encourage us to admit and complain when things are not going as they should. Keeping everything to yourself is unhealthy, especially since by not uttering a problem, you tend to increase it. But on the other hand, when you absorb the thrill of jealousy and turn any inconvenience into a divine curse, things can take a rather dangerous turn for frequent mourners.

Quoting Lopes, American psychiatrist Stephen Barton asserts: “If dark thoughts constantly haunt us, we tend more and more to see everything in black, creating a vicious cycle of pessimism. (…]This situation occurs when the synapses are which represent negativity closer and closer and become better connected to each other than those that transmit positive signals. The winning idea is always the one with which sufferers have the shortest distance to go.”

In addition, says the psychiatrist, the negativity with which we are born is contagious, because people have a tendency to empathize. When someone tells you that they are suffering, it automatically sends you a feeling of sadness. But it is not only about suffering, but also about those who are constantly dissatisfied, those who are always critical of anything. “When we are around someone experiencing an emotion, our brain tries to recreate that feeling so we can understand what that person is going through. (…) But there are also moments that are less helpful than empathy, like spending an entire evening with friends who like to gossip, criticize, and ridicule. of anything. (…). Gossip is also a strong source of concern.”

On a physical level, a constant state of dissatisfaction leads to the release of cortisol, known as the stress hormone. And when it’s elevated, the immune system suffers and health is compromised – from hair loss and obesity to diabetes or heart attacks, these are just some of the many conditions that can occur as a result of stress.

And when we live in a society that really gives us reasons to be nervous, it probably wouldn’t hurt to let it loosen up with little dramas and whines of everything. Not everything is a tragedy.

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