All I want to be

On the last hundred meters before The deadlines I also began to respond to the call to write this article, but perhaps not by chance: it’s the first day of the new school year. Occasion feelings, festive speeches and wishes Success Intended for children who go to school, but also for teachers and parents. A changing concept, understood by everyone according to their own values, from the old, quantitative (success equals the highest score), to the new qualitative concept (success means being a good, empathetic, complete person). When I receive the wish of “success in the new school year”, as a mother, I do not know exactly what it means, although I am convinced it was made with the best of intentions. After the experiences of the past two years, the definition of success has changed dramatically, and for me it has become synonymous with calm, predictability and stability; But I’m afraid it won’t be there this year either, so success can be redefined, again: “to keep our heads together until the end of the school year,” because mental health is a value that should not be despised.

In the last four or five years I have participated in a lot of workshops for children and especially in the projects of De Basm (Association of Writers for Children and Adolescents), and therefore I had the opportunity to talk to them with children and young people, this is the most beautiful, fragile and honest generation, about dragons and princesses, about wizards and adventures , but also about “serious” things or, as they say, “heavy things”. Each time, these meetings give me wings and the feeling that all is not lost, as most children are open-minded, creative and eager to learn more. Yes, there are a lot of people who take messages around them, they are already bombarded with it, and all that matters is money and popularity in Social mediaNevertheless, they are very receptive to stories of friendship and courage. At each meeting, discussions arose about the importance of these values ​​- friendship, honesty, trust and courage – which then inspired them to write and articulate their definitions and histories. One young girl wrote: “Parents are the bravest people I know, because they protect us from our fears.” “My secret strength is courage” – another. “I want to be everything I want to be” was one of the most beautiful answers to the famous question “What do you want to be when you grow up?”. One of the most beautiful definitions of friendship given by the children De Basm’s team met in workshops across the country: “Friendship means sharing a bag of chips with another.”

Although I never began to write didactic books (in fact, I strongly believe that story and style are more important than “dissertation”), over time several proposals on such topics came to me; The challenge was to write in a way that children could understand about important values, such as courage, tolerance, friendship, and solidarity, without teaching morals lessons in an educational tone. so for Courage book I chose ten small creatures that are not usually associated with courage, but on the contrary: ladybirds, pigeons, squirrels, fish and butterflies. Children are amazed every time, expecting to find among the book covers stories about tigers, bears, lions and other “ferocious” animals, and thus “courage”. But after moments of reading and asking questions together, their stories begin to flow, with examples from everyday life – you don’t have to be a superhero in movies to be brave!

When I started, with my colleagues Victoria Petraco, Yulia Urdan, Laura Grunberg and Christina Andoni, the project was disobedientWe wanted to tell stories of amazing women from the past hundreds of years in Romania, who tried and often succeeded in changing the world around them for the better, overturning prejudices, breaking down barriers, fighting for their rights and dreams and excelling at what they set out to do. While documenting, we realized that this “disobedience” (hence the title of the two volumes) is a lesser known value, but it can work miracles when the road seems closed. The destinies of the 100 women we have chosen, at the end of a long process of documentation and selection, are brought together by this red thread of disobedience, in the broadest sense of caring for others, sharing, backbone, generosity, and perseverance. But how do you write about all this on one page? How do we convey a story and emotion that inspires more, in a limited number of signs? We sought to illuminate an important scene in the lives of these women through each text, a turning point, a moment of tension, when “disobedience” faces a choice. And the choice is never easy… It was our hope, the authors, that these stories would stimulate children, girls and boys alike, but also be used by parents and teachers to discuss topics of interest to youngsters.

I am part of a generation brought up between two worlds: I spent my early childhood under communism, reciting patriotic verses and songs, and my adolescence in the wild 1990s, when I began to rebuild haphazardly, on the ruins of the old order, with no standards and values ​​other than that we must restore all Unless we have it ASAP. We are a spoiled generation. It seems to me that we have endured many traumas through the generations from our parents (not a few!) and in spite of all this we try to instill in our children the values ​​that we have discovered ourselves, hard and much. of internal conflict. We didn’t talk to our parents about empathy, tolerance, communication, and authenticity, but we’re trying to recover (and kind of fix) by talking about it all with our kids, and maybe, if this cycle continues, until there may be a certain moment in history. A chance for a happier generation.

Adina Rossetti She is a writer. Latest published book: My first leading word, Arthur Publishing House2021.

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